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Anyone who has spent time on Grindr or Gaydar will know that it is common to receive sexually aggressive messages accompanied by photographs of the sender in provocative poses, often naked.Sometimes, the only photographic evidence of themselves they wish to send are close-up shots of their penises.The problem is that by doing so, these young men are making themselves incredibly vulnerable to exploitation, sexual abuse and even rape.They are risking both their physical and mental health, and they are willing to do it because they crave the love, acceptance and security they haven’t found at home, in their communities or within the educational system.When I was younger, more inhibited and less trusting of others, I used to hang around on Gaydar for hours, chatting with men I wasn’t even brave enough to meet.At the time, I used to berate myself quite severely for it, but I may have been doing myself a favour.Personally, the Mc Donald’s Drive-Thru approach to dating has never been my thing.I’m not aggressive enough, I don’t like engaging in anonymous sex and to be frank, I am too neurotic to clamber up nine flights of stairs to the dingy flat of a man I have never even met before to partake in intimate relations. What really put me off the whole thing was a message I received within 24 hours of re-activating my account.
Gay dating sites have revolutionised the way we connect with each other and have provided opportunities for interaction that were impossible before.
They have an important place in gay culture and will continue to positively affect the lives of millions of gay men around the world.
They also have a responsibility to their users though.
That’s not to say that anonymous sex is inherently wrong, it’s merely an observation I have made, and one which has greater implications for our gay youth than any other demographic.
Sex education in schools is, at best, perfunctory, and for gay kids it’s largely non-existent.